Come Together – Let “ego” go

The obstacles that face business seem to be an almost everyday occurrence. It is part of business. Obstacles are not necessarily problems. In my opinion, in order to classify an obstacle as a problem a certain set of criterion has to be met.

First, the perception of a problem must be one that does not mimic a problem from the past. That is, it must be a completely new issue, one that has not been solved in the past.

Secondly, the source of difficulty must not have passed the “choice evaluation” process. That is problem solving filters that you have put into place can not have had probable answers to the dilemma. If there are probable answers, then one must move forward with the potential resolution and overcome the obstacle – not dwell on the potential problem.

The last and most important criterion lies in employing the ear of an advisor. This is most difficult because it entails dissolving ones “ego”, I call it the “false self”. When the “false self” concedes that the issue was too big for anyone to solve then any problem solving ceases. The “ego” can get in the way to the point that many people concede that the obstacle can not be solved and over state the significance of the issue. With this the newly defined problem becomes a product of the of the “one-up-man ship dilemma”. The self talk becomes “I know better than anyone else”.

Most problems that occur in the world are a matter of “ego”, the “false self”, getting in the way. Opportunities are typically found in “problems” when the right people find each other. But the “dissolution of ego is a must”.

Humans are a herd animal- we must depend on one another because we can not go at it alone. People that attempt to do so are fools. No one that was ever successful went at it alone. There are no genuine ideas, no one is ever that brilliant. Your idea might be the best one ever, but, that does not buy you sovereignty from the advice of others within the potential problem solving process. Be you, but, ask for help when warranted. The right people must come together.

For me it is my wife and I; Me and my family; Me and my best of friends. At least they inspire and place me in spirit to go beyond the dilemma and not the perceived “PROBLEM”. Come together, let EGO-GO and overcome your obstacles.

Impeccability

Dr. Miguel Ruiz talks about being impeccable with your word at all times in his book The Four Agreements. A great book that I try to abide by daily.

The reason for not seeing consistent new posts in the last 10 days is due in part to this impeccability rule. Our family has been on vacation and I told my kids that I would not spend as much time working, as I have on previous trips. So, because of attempting to be impeccable with my word to them, the blog has suffered a bit.

Only say what you mean and do not lie to anyone with empty promises, especially yourself. This only offends them, but more importantly it offends trust.

We will be in full swing starting Monday.

More Follow Through

Drive strength is that inner motivation that individuals must harness to move to the next level. However, Drive strength must be equaled with genuine commitment ethic and fixed intention. The follow through is golden… Drive strength without commitment ethic is typically manifested as a lie directed at yourself. In my experience ,you can only lie to yourself enough before it begins to take its toll on Self Esteem.

When an individual continues down this cyclic mindset of saying one thing and doing another, it not only takes it toll on confidence in ones own ability to attain, but, it also takes its toll on the how others may perceive you as dependable. The most affected with this type of thinking moral force is trust.

A quick fix to this type of mind play is to consider the amount of follow through or commitment ethic will be required before allowing blind motivation to move forward in taking on a task.

Motivation will naturally precede commitment, however, I am merely suggesting that you don’t commit in any way until you consider the amount of commitment it will take to achieve the said task. To allow the same ol’ same ol’ is to concede to the same result, which whittles away at your dignity and self -worth, which may be unbeknown-st to you.

Be true to your goals by being true to the commitment ethic involved.